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Gut Feeling He's Cheating No Proof? - What you Can Do

Is My Boyfriend Cheating | By: Katie Lister

May 10, 2024

Can my gut tell me when my partner is cheating? How do I prove my partner is cheating?  My intuition tells me he is cheating; can it lie? What are the subtle signs he is cheating? If you have these and other related questions, you are in the right place!

Hi, my name is Katie Lister. I am a practicing Registered Nurse and the founder of Growth Gals. I lead personal development groups and coach women to live their best lives authentically. Growth Gals provides a safe space for women to connect with like-minded individuals, learn, and offer support to one another.

It is so important that women have safe spaces to discuss various topics related to everyday issues that affect their lives, such as mental health challenges, navigating relationships, and self-improvement. This is what GG is all about. If your partner is acting strange and you have a gut feeling he is cheating but have no proof; this article will tell you everything you need to know.

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Written by Katie Lister, RN, BScN. An experienced Registered Nurse, Group Facilitator, Life Coach, and Community Leader. Read Katie's Full Author Bio

Should you trust your gut?

Yes, it is always advisable to trust your gut, as it’s almost always right. Trusting your gut means trusting your intuition or that little voice that tells you right from wrong. Your gut makes you feel something is off, but you cannot explain what or why. Your intuition warns you depending on past experiences. If your sixth sense tells you your partner is cheating, but you have no proof, chances are that he is.

Gut feelings evoke emotions and physical symptoms similar to those caused by anxiety. These signs may include:

  • Tension
  • Sudden mental clarity( an Eureka moment)
  • Goosebumps
  • A sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach
  • Nausea or butterflies in your stomach
  • A feeling of happiness or calmness after making a decision
  • Sweaty feet or palms

Studies suggest that a significant percentage of women who get a gut feeling their boyfriends are cheating are usually correct, even without proof. When you suspect infidelity, ask yourself if your gut feeling is emotion or logic-based. If your gut feeling is logic-based, you can trust it. If based on emotions, you should look for concrete evidence before talking to your partner.

Why do Men Cheat?

Why do men cheat? Infidelity is traumatizing and can destroy a relationship. Some couples recover from the infidelity, but many do not. Even if you choose to make it work, it takes a lot of work. Men cheat for many reasons, and no reason is ever your fault such as:

  • Low self-esteem.
  • Anger or revenge against his partner and may cheat to punish the partner.
  • Lack of love for their partner and looking for an excuse to end the relationship.
  • Wanting to have sex with different women.
  • An opportunity presents itself.
  • Attachment styles: Some cheaters may have attachment disorders. An emotionally avoidant person might cheat because he feels overwhelmed in the relationship. An emotionally anxious person might cheat because he thinks his partner would not care if he cheated. If your boyfriend has intimacy issues, he may find it hard to connect emotionally and may respond by cheating. Cheating could be a form of self-sabotage for emotionally avoidant or anxious people.

My husband cheated on me, what can i do? Find out in this article. 

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Signs of a Cheating Partner

I suspect my husband is cheating but I have no proof. While your instincts tell you something is off, there are signs of infidelity you should look out for in a cheating partner, such as:

His behavior

In a healthy relationship, you know your partner as well as he does you. Pay attention if he acts out of character, leaving you with the gut feeling that something is off. You know your spouse’s attitudes, routines, and habits, and you will immediately notice when little things change.

He lies about everything for no apparent reason; he has frequent mood swings, nothing he says makes sense, etc. When you try to talk to him about it, he uses the gaslighting technique to cover up and make it seem like you are crazy.

Long and unexplained absences

Your partner starts being absent from home for long hours. He does not clearly explain where he has been or the reason for the sudden change in attitude or behavior. He may disappear for a whole day and on inquiry, gives lame excuses that don’t make sense.

If he is usually very communicative but now disappears for long periods without communication, he might be hiding something. If he’s secretive about his whereabouts, it’s a warning sign he could be hiding evidence of infidelity.

He asks you to stop tagging him on social media

A lot of people are friends with their partners on social media and tag each other on posts. A cheating boyfriend will request you to stop tagging him because he does not his new love interest to know he has a girlfriend. He may unfriend you, create new social media accounts, or join dating apps.

Late-night texts and calls

When your partner starts getting late-night texts or phone calls that he picks up in the other room, that’s a major red flag. Whom is he talking to, and why doesn’t he want you to hear? If it is an emergency, you would know about it.

He asks for a break from the relationship

A cheater does not want to make long-term plans with you. He avoids subjects like the future, children, or buying property.  Out of the blue, he asks for a break from the relationship after giving you several hints.

He hides his phone

If you were previously free to touch his phone, he starts hiding it or being overprotective. He puts a password if he doesn’t have one or changes the previous one. This is an obvious attempt to keep you off his phone. Unless, by good luck, you happen to see a pop-up text, he knows you can’t prove anything.

He takes extra care of his appearance

When a man starts taking extra care of his appearance, he is up to something and trying to impress someone. He may even change his hairstyle and cologne or start shopping for new clothes and shoes.

Changes in sex life

Your sex life may suddenly improve, and he wants to try new things. If your sex life decreases and he is no longer interested in you, those are surefire signs he is having an affair.

What to Do When He Cheats, and You Have No Proof

In cases of a boyfriend cheating, one may suspect cheating but have no tangible evidence, causing uncertainty. If you suspect your man is cheating with no proof except your gut instinct, here is what to do:

Reflect on the situation

Are your suspicions because of his specific behaviors or a general feeling? It’s essential to identify the root of your concerns and to understand their foundation.

Have proof

Confronting an unfaithful spouse without evidence will complicate your relationship as he will deny it. Before you broach the sensitive subject, you need proof of the affair. If you are wrong, such an accusation will hurt his feelings and cause trust issues.

Keep a journal

Keep a detailed journal of events. Document dates, times, and the infidelity signs noted. These journal entries will act as a reference for you in case your partner tries to deny it or if you decide to see a therapist. A journal will help you to process all the emotions you go through.

Talk to someone

A study shows the damaging effects of infidelity that may lead to a breakdown in the relationship. Discuss your situation with loved ones like a family member or a trusted friend for emotional support and a new perspective. Seek professional therapy, especially if you see patterns from a previous relationship. You may have underlying psychological issues that need addressing.

Prioritize your well-being

Take care of your physical and mental health. The stress of a cheating spouse can take a toll on you, especially when you have no proof. Engage in hobbies, seek support from your social circle, join a new group of like-minded people, and see a therapist to help you cope.

Seek marital therapy

If he admits to having an affair, is remorseful, and you both decide to make the relationship work, seek couples therapy. A therapist will offer relationship advice and guide you toward forgiveness and rebuilding trust, hoping and trusting it’s the first and last time he cheats.

Gut Feeling He’s Cheating No Proof? How Growth Gals Can Help You

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Gut Feeling He’s Cheating No Proof? Conclusion

When a partner cheats, you will have a gut feeling. However much you suspect infidelity but no proof, you must be very careful. A cheating partner will go to great lengths to hide the affair and will deny the accusation unless you provide evidence of his infidelity. Get emotional and mental support from family, friends, and a therapist.

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